Female bottoms; Dumping the submissive Trope

Female bottoms Dumping the “submissive” Trope “Standard mythology would have you believe that a bottom is a passive, disempowered, self-destructive, needy, whining wimp. We hope you will refrain from believing these things about yourself. We suggest that you see yourself as a full-power bottom” – The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W.…

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Service; A Lost Skill

Service A Lost Skill Unpopular opinion, service oriented submission is a fallacy. Now, before you lose your marbles and start screaming at your scream, let Me/me explain. Is my belief that if you identify as a submissive, you inherently should like to serve, after all, what’s a submissive if not a people pleaser, isn’t? Yet,…

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Power Exchange; Unpacking the Essence of Giving and Receiving Control

Power Exchange Unpacking the Essence of Giving and Receiving Control “To fall at the feet of an imperious mistress, obey her mandates, or implore pardon, were for me the most exquisite enjoyments…” – JEAN-JACQUES ROUSSEAU | 1765 Yes, one of the most influential minds of the Siècle des Lumières [Age of Enlightenment] was a very…

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Beyond the Thrill: How Mindful Kink Deepens Connection

Beyond the Thrill How Mindful Kink Deepens Connection Welcome to the wonderful world of mindful kink, where every “oh” and “ouch” is paired with intention and self-awareness! Sure, BDSM and kink can be thrilling, intense, and just a little chaotic, but when you add a dash of mindfulness that’s when the real magic happens. Think…

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BDSMK Ethical Frameworks; Beyond a Conduct Code

BDSMK Ethical Frameworks Beyond a Conduct Code SSC, SSICK, RACK, PRICK, CCC, CORE, CCCC, GGG, BARK, SEAF; and who knows how many others are out there. This community [BDSMK community] is fascinated by acronyms. But these ones are very important, they are BDSMK ethical framework [aka conduct code]. I disagree with that definition though [of…

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