Coffee Dates are more than just a cup of joe, in the BDSM and kink lifestyle, a "coffee date" isn't just about your caffeine fix or debating whether to go for the latte or the cold brew. Think of it as a friendly, no-pressure meet-up where two people get to chat about their interests, boundaries, and what makes them tick—kink and otherwise—over a warm [or iced] cup of coffee. It's like a first date, but with more negotiation talk and fewer rom-com expectations.

 

Coffee Dates are the best way to get to know someone. Meeting a new person can be a very stressful experience. This it’s especially true when it comes to the first encounter with the person you wish to make your desires come true. For this reason Miss Abby decided to include this  low pressure process where conversations come natural, so it’s easier to share experience and desires necessary for building trust while having a casual conversation.

 

But be wary, coffee dates are NOT play meetings, neither are interrogations. Are a relaxed and informal meeting in a neutral setting that helps reduce anxiety and stress associated with more “formal” dates.

 

One of the positive aspects of this one-on-one meeting it's that unlike munches or partis, you will be the focus of attention and you will be able to pay attention; and unlike a session, where activities require significant focus or engagement, coffee dates center around conversation only, allowing both parties to learn more about each other.

 

A Coffee date can easily be extended if the date is going well or cut short if it’s not, without significant social awkwardness. A Coffee date DOES NOT necessarily mean that a session, mentorship or any kind of kink relationship has been granted.

 

Coffee dates can be scheduled at any hour  or any day of the week, making it convenient for people with challenging hours.

 

So, sip your coffee, relax, and get to know our Tops because every great dynamic starts with a little conversation!