FAQ
Welcome to our FAQ page, where we address common questions about ALT's community, services, and educational resources.
Here, you'll find answers that can guide you through understanding what we offer and how to engage with our community.
Where it’s ALT located?
Our community is everywhere. You can reach out to us from anywhere on the planet as long as you do it in spanish or english. Our headquarters are located in Ecuador though.
Why should I become a Patreon?
By becoming a Patreon, you’re joining a community that’s dedicated to creating valuable tools and resources for those who wish to explore and grow within the BDSMK lifestyle. Our mission goes beyond just teaching about kink; we aim to foster safe, informed, and positive experiences that empower individuals and promote exploration.
Your support means you are helping us in:
Empowering Education: Your contributions help us create high-quality educational materials, from workshops and guides to online courses, all designed to deepen understanding of BDSM dynamics, communication, consent, and personal growth. By supporting us, you’re making these resources accessible to a wider audience who may be seeking guidance or wanting to learn in a safe and informed way.
Creating Tools for Healing: We focus on more than just the mechanics of BDSMK; we aim to address the emotional, psychological, and relational aspects that come with power dynamics and kink. Your support allows us to develop tools that help people heal, build confidence, and explore their identities in a supportive community.
Community Building & Connection: As a patreon, you’re investing in a thriving community where like-minded individuals can connect, share experiences, and learn from one another. We host events, discussion groups, and social gatherings to foster a sense of belonging and mutual support, and your contributions help us keep these opportunities accessible.
Supporting a Positive & Inclusive Movement: Our community is committed to inclusivity and positive representation of the BDSMK lifestyle. Your patronage helps us promote values of consent, diversity, and respect, ensuring that everyone feels welcome and supported on their journey.
Exclusive Content & Early Access: And of course, patreons receive ALT’s Welcome Package, which includes several of our original tools, access to exclusive content, behind-the-scenes updates, and early access to workshops, events, and new resources. This means you get a first look at the latest tools, techniques, and community projects.
As you can see, your support as a patreon is more than just a contribution; it’s an investment in a community that believes in the power of education, healing, and connection within the world of BDSMK. Together, we can continue to build a safe, informed, and empowering space for all who wish to explore this path.
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How do I pick the right session?
You should choose based on your main goal. Even though many of the session’s characteristics overlap, the how changes dramatically. Make sure to read all the information available in this site and it might be a good idea to look for other sources of information just to make sure you are out of the echo chamber. You can always make inquiries to our team, so they can clarify any doubts.
Are coffee dates mandatory before a session?
We highly advise doing at least 4 coffee dates before booking any kind of session. Coffee dates will allow you to have more information about the process and the person involved in your exploration, which will come handy when making an informed decision.
Is there an age limit for sessions?
Although our team believes and advocates for the democratization of sexual education and believes that it is important for youth to be educated on these topics; when it comes to our sessions we believe that 25 years as the minimum age required is the age that respects our self-imposed ethical rules. As for the maximum age required, we do not have any. As long as the health of our explorers allows them to participate, we are willing to guide them.
Why do I need to tribute?
Because capitalism it’s a heartless bitch ☺
Tribute allows our team to take the time to research, learn, teach, design tools & methods, buy equipment and keep food on the table, clothes on their bodies [though they wish for that to be optional].
Do sessions include sex?
NO. None of our sessions include sex. Most people think about sensualism & erotism as synonyms of sex, but their true meaning is complex and nuances are needed to explain. Yes, BDSMK is sexual but is not equal to sex. Saying that a Domme is a sex worker is the equivalent of saying that a sexologist is also one. Their methodologies and training may vary but what they do is very similar, helping someone to explore their sexual self. Dommes/Dom ARE NOT escorts.
If I'm not getting any sex then, why is it so “expensive”?
We can explain to you about the regular workshops our team goes to so they can learn new skills and improve the ones they already have; the books they need to be able to acquire actual real life knowledge, or about the very expensive and very hard to get equipment and special clothes that you will be enjoying. But it's really about how they make everything they do look so easy, it's their ability to make fantasies come to life, it's the guarantee you have that your physical and mental integrity are in the hands of ethical professionals. None of our Tops just showed up and said: “I’m naturally dominant”, and we, based on our internal feelings and intuition, decided they were ready to put them in a situation where other’s physical and mental health are in the line.
“Dominance is an art and science that needs extensive education and preparation”
How does a session work?
All sessions are unique. We see session’ experience as a personal creative expression. In it the Top’s and bottom’s interests, skills, goals, chemistry, and much more, will collide to create a magical ethereal moment.
A session can last about 1 to 2 hours but can easily go up to 3 to 4 hours. It will depend on the scenario the session it’s trying to create. Sessions are not full hardcore from top to bottom, are more a combination of calm and intense moments, with some kind of culmination and relaxing aftercare.
Unless you specifically are against it, session will start around 11 am. It is worth being clear on times, punctuality it’s a MUST, unless otherwise stated assume 1 hour pre-activities [greet, prepare, get ready] and 1 post-activities [aftercare, clean up, clean the place, pick up]. That means that if you session it’s at 3pm you arrive at 2pm. If you are late, the activity length will be reduced by the time you lost.
Show up at the agreed time and just as you were told to. All instructions will be given to you, you just have to follow them properly. You do not need to take a gift, BUT will be highly appreciated if you choose to, especially if it’s something you have “discover” by yourself [i.e. every Top have their wish list]. If the gift is an outfit you wish them to wear or a toy you wish them to use on you then make sure to consult with your Top so they can help you out. to pick the proper one.
Other than that, follow instructions, be mindful with your manners and have fun; hopefully you will come out wanting to do it all again ❤.
Where will the session take place?
At the moment ALT doesn’t own a physical space with an equipped dungeon [working hard to achieve that goal/dream]. Options are, in a hotel or at your place. In case you want it at your private residence/airbnb, we will request for a copy of your government ID and a security staff will be monitoring [all to ensure personal safety].
What should I do before a session?
Take a very thorough shower. Personal hygiene is extremely important. If on arrival you are offered a shower, it’s usually an instruction to take one. Don’t be offended. Journeys, hot weather, sweat through excitement, all can play against you.
If you are given clear instructions on how to dress or what to eat, follow them to the letter. You can’t consume alcohol or drugs 3 days before and on the day of the session for safety reasons. It is non-negotiable. If the Top sees any signs of it in the beginning of the session, it will be canceled without any refund. Other than that, have fun!.
How should I behave during the session?
If you have previous experience in sessions you will already have a slight idea of the protocol to follow. If it's your first time, just follow orders, watch your manners and you'll have a great time.
What about the after session?
Sessions are hard, on the body and on the mind. No matter if you are a novice folk or a seasoned one. Some people can even experience post-session drop . Without getting too precise on the science, the body releases lots of very fun endorphins which can create lots of good feelings. then they……..stop. So, after a really fun session you can feel quite low, or confused, and… oh… it can be difficult. It’s a very normal experience, doesn’t mean you had a bad experience or that you actually don’t like what you just did, it just means you are a very normal, very empathic human. Nobody can prepare you for this and it might take a few sessions for you to work out your own comfort mechanisms and feel loose during a session. But drop it’s not the only kind of “hangover” after a wild party, post-session frenzy is also a curious challenging effect, something folks are even less prepared for.
Because of it and much more it’s why aftercare can take more than an hour and why post-session check-ins are so important. In general, once a session is over, it’s over. BUT our sessions are NOT mani-pedi sessions, we work with humans exposing a very intimate and vulnerable side of them. It feels unreasonable to cut all communication when our actions may unchain strong emotions, reaching out few times more if needed, it’s perfectly okay.
If you are in a position and desire to book again, then the ball could start rolling again, and hopefully there’s something to build on.
Will the Domme do everything I want?
Now, that’s a silly question, isn’t it? You are booking a Top, you dummy. Yes, your Top will work towards delivering a good experience to you, how that may looks like though, doesn’t depend on you. You are in the hands of a professional with special knowledge in this kind of thing, so trust the process.
Now, you may make requests but no demands. And while our Tops are open to hear you out, there is a difference between asking to discuss an idea [e.i., “I have a fantasy of this scenario…”] and commanding a Top to do specific shit [e.i., “I want you to do X thing at this X time"]. If you go into a session thining that it's what's going to happen, you are in for a non-refundable tribute experience. Ask respectfully and earn your Top’s willingness to indulge your brattiness.
What about if I cancel or circumstances change?
There’s two possible stumbling blocks towards a session.
1. Something happened and you can’t attend.
2. You change your mind and now you regret booking with us.
Whatever your case might be, you will NOT get your deposit back. But we aren’t heartless capitalism dogs, we always try to find middle ground. If you let us know about the cancellation 24 hours before the scheduled day, we can “hold” your session in a “pending to reschedule” state.
If you cancel the same day of the session, you will be banned from any of our services.
Canceling a session it’s not difficult at all, you don’t need to give us reasons, all you have to do is:
1. Reach out to your Top 24 hours before and let them know about the change.
2. Send an email to ALT notifying the cancellation and requesting the “pending to reschedule” status.
Remember, our team invests an incredible amount of time and resources planning a session, obviously the more notice you can give that you need to cancel, the easier things are for both sides.
Tributes? Deposits? This isn’t what I want. How do I get a session with someone who doesn’t ask for money?
I hear you. Truly. Capitalism it’s a heartless bitch and it seems that everyone is asking for our hard earned money. It’s hard out there. But do not despair, we have you cover, you might want to check Miss Abby’s articles Female Tops and Finding a NON Professional Domme. And, GOOD LUCK!
There it’s anything you don't do in a session?
Each session type has their purpose, depending on it the process of each session will look different. That being said, yes, all our sessions have very specific limits.
Our BDMK sessions limits are:
❌ Knife play.
❌ Gun play.
❌ Electrical play.
❌ Blood play.
❌ Heavy Medical Play.
❌ Scarification, branding or anything between those lines.
❌ Fire play.
❌ Heavy Torture.
❌ Anything related to non-consensual participants.
When it comes to the other types of sessions limits will be put in place on a case by case basis.
Why do I need to tribute 50% 7 days after approval for a session?
That first 50% not only demonstrates your commitment to the process, but also recognizes the time and effort put by our team in meeting your needs. Even when our team it’s not talking with you they are working on your session’s details.
Why do I need to tribute the remaining 50% 3 days before the session?
Location, mobilization, equipment, clothing, and much more. There’s a lot of things involved in the execution of a session, many of which involve money. Imagine us paying for all that and then someone cancels at the last minute. We'd be out of the scene in less than a month.
Why can’t I tribute on the same day of the session?
Because the preparation for your session starts way before the day it’s done and all that preparation generates expenses.
What's the difference between a workshop and a mentorship?
While both, workshops and mentorships, are valuable tools for learning and growth within the BDSMK community, they serve different purposes and offer unique experiences. An easy way to explain the difference it’s by telling that while workshops offer quick, concentrated learning, mentorship provides a deeper, more sustained path for personal development. Together, they can complement each other, with workshops introducing new concepts and mentorship providing the space to integrate and apply that knowledge over time.
Why are there different types of workshops?
As with sessions, workshops are designed to respond to specific needs. Depending on your goals you can choose between SLUTS, DIC, CUNT, WHORE, WANKERS, SINFUL or FAG.
