Mentorship
Education
Through one-on-one interactions the Mentor will provide expert knowledge on various aspects of BDSMK, including but not limited to:
✓ BDSM dynamics [e.g., Dominants, submissives, Handler, Canvas, Hunter, etc]
✓ Ethics, negotiation, and setting boundaries [e.g., ethical frameworks, negotiation tools, etc]
✓ Safety [e.g., physical safety practices, safe words, aftercare]
✓ Emotional and psychological aspects of BDSMK relationships
✓ Skills & Techniques [e.g., bondage, impact play, etc]
The mentorship is tailored to your learning style, comfort level, and personal goals, ensuring a well-rounded and supportive experience. Topics, learning goals, personal preferences and your current level of knowledge are all taken in consideration by the Mentor before creating an unique plan for you.
Personal Growth and Development
Even though the classic BDSM mentorship focuses primarily on your development as a Top, bottom or switch; ALT’s mentoring style consider goals beyond BDSMK sphere very important, reason why our mentorships are design to foster growth in areas such as:
✓ Self-awareness and confidence.
✓ Building and maintaining healthy non-kink relationships.
✓ Improving interpersonal communication skills.
✓ Emotional resilience and regulation.
Tailored Learning Approach
Learning methods will vary according to your preferences, with options for theoretical discussions, hands-on experiences [in safe, controlled environments], journaling, and reflection sessions.
Mentorship is tailored to the mentee’s preferred learning methods, ensuring that the process is engaging and supportive, whether you prefer structured lessons or flexible, experience-based learning, the mentorship adapts to meet your needs.
Here’s how that might look:
✓ Theorecal: Probably the most used teaching technique. ALT uses academic, scientific and BDSMK staple books as part of the learning process. Even though theoretical learning it’s not usually linked to the BDSMK learning process, due to the pariah status of the BDSM lifestyle, books are often the best sources of information for inquiring minds. Mentor may assign reading materials from reliable authors.
✓ Instructional conversations:
“dialogue should lead us to the truth, or at least to an honest understanding of what we believe to be true and why we think it is so”
Socrates.
This socratic method involves a shared dialogue between Mentor/mentee, where Mentor leads by posing thought-provoking questions and mentee actively engage by asking questions of their own, engaging in that way in educational, thought exchange fostering broader considerations and concepts leading to more deeper debates and discussions. Regular discussions are held to deepen the mentee’s understanding of various BDSM concepts, including ethical dilemmas, relationship structures, emotional dynamics among many others. Mentor may recommend podcasts or videos that cover important topics, using them as a spark for the debates.
✓ Introspective tools: Mentor will use different tools to guide the mentee through a journey to find their own voice and their own belief system. The mentee is encouraged to reflect on their journey, ask questions, and will receive feedback on areas for improvement or deeper exploration.
✓ Hands-on: If agreed upon and depending on the goals and comfort level of both parties, the mentorship may include practical learning experiences. The Mentor may guide the mentee through simulated BDSM scenes in a safe and controlled environment. This could involve practicing Dominant or submissive roles, learning how to negotiate scenes, or experiencing specific types of play [such as bondage or impact play]. If practical demonstrations are involved, safety is a top priority. The Mentor will ensure a safe space to discuss activities' psychological impact and support processing emotions. For added safety and objectivity, a third party may be present during certain practical sessions to ensure all boundaries and consent are respected.
Safety and Ethical Guidance
Mentorship emphasizes the ethical foundation of BDSMK, including:
✓ Consent: The importance of consent and mutual respect it’s key to mentorship. The mentee has the right to withdraw or modify their consent at any time.
✓ Limits: Establishing hard and soft limits is the foundation to a better understanding. Mentorship is a collaborative process, and both parties should respect each other’s limits.
✓ Non-judgemental: Creating safe spaces for exploration without fear of ridicule or criticism is necessary for openness to be at the center of the mentoring process.
✓ Communication: Open dialogue is encouraged, ensuring that both the Mentor and mentee are comfortable and aligned in their expectations.
You will be guided through the practical application of these principles to ensure that your journey into BDSM is both safe and empowering.
Tristan Taormino; The Ultimate Guide to Kink
"[...]for everyone who dares to expand their erotic horizons beyond the ordinary. For all those who like to give and receive intense sensations. For the people who eroticize power and cultivate consciousness in sex and relationships. For anyone who loves to
dance on the line between pleasure and pain. For folks who nurture naked creativity and make fantasies come to life [...]"
Step 2: Tribute or Payment
A tribute will be requested for the Mentor’s time and expertise. Tribute reflects Mentee’s commitment to their own learning process and shows respect for Mentor’s effort in providing support and dedicating their resources to mentee’s growth; also ensures mentee values and respects the learning process.
Step 3: Privacy, Confidentiality, Limits & Commitment
Absolute discretion, respect and true commitment; are ALT’s most valuable traits. Mentor will present to the mentee an NDA and a Mentorship’s Agreement which both parties should sign. The Mentor must verify the mentee understands all the information before signing. These two documents are a way to ensure clarity and accountability for both parties.