A Coffee Date with Miss Abby
Your next adventure starts with just one sip...
So, you think a coffee date with a Mistress is just about sipping lattes and chit-chat? Think again. A coffee date with Miss Abby is where kink meets caffeine, and the stakes are a lot higher than deciding between almond milk or oat. This is your chance to meet in a relaxed setting, get a taste of her presence, discuss your interests [and limits], and see if you’ve got what it takes to go beyond small talk. It’s like a job interview for your deepest desires—except that Miss Abby holds all the cards, and no, you can’t negotiate with extra whipped cream.
Coffee dates are one of the steps on the process through which Miss Abby explores people’s minds to be able to compose their Sensualist Profile, reason why Coffee dates are a mandatory step for those who expect booking a session with Miss Abby.
Why Coffee Dates are a good idea?
Miss Abby is very aware of how challenging can be finding a like minded person with enough knowledge and personal experience with whom to talk to. It's especially hard when all you want it's give good advice or test the waters.
Miss Abby believes in the democratization of health and knowledge, reason why she cincluided this flexible concept to ALT's protocols.
Beyond Miss Abby’s desire of making kink interactions more accessible and empathics, there’s also the fact that a good session, mentorship, dynamic or relationship it’s always based on communication, trust and chemistry. You wouldn't want to tell all your most intimate deep secrets and desires to a complete stranger, would you?
Coffee dates are the perfect opportunity to get rid of all the awkwardness of those nerve racking first meetings while establishing a bond that allows honest, respectful and direct communication.
Also, coffee dates are the safest screening method for all parties involved. The public nature of the coffee dates make them ideal for initial meetings while staying safe, making it possible to foster a comfortable and friendly space for both parties to interact and learn more about each other within the perfect environment for meaningful conversation.
A Coffee Date for Every Need
Miss Abby understands that motivations can vary from person to person. You can choose between different coffee dates “programs” depending on which one fits best to your personal needs/desires.
Coffee Date for Sensualist Profile: 4 dates in which Miss Abby’s role would be of an interviewer.
Coffee Date for Designing Personalized Scene: 6 dates in which Miss Abby’s role would be of an adviser.
Coffee Date for Mentoring Consideration: 6 dates in which Miss Abby’s role would be of a Mentor.
Coffee Date for SES Consideration: under Miss Abby’s discretion, her role would be of an Usher.
Coffee Date for PS Consideration: under Miss Abby’s discretion, Her role would be of a Domme.
Coffee Dates Options
Virtual Option
Includes: online conversations, which may or may not include a video call [depending on the explorer’s comfort level].
Time: the time of each conversation will depend on the explorer's communication skills, personal context and needs.
Requirement: a 50% tribute fee must be paid within a period of 3 days after Miss Abby’s invitation acceptance. Once the tribute has been made, you must send the receipt. You then will receive an email confirming the coffee date with all the information necessary [date/hour/link to the meeting space/etc]. If such tribute it’s not made, the coffee date will automatically be canceled without any notification. In case you still want a coffee date, you must do the entire process once more.
Tribute: $30 per conversation. This rate is within one hour and half time mark, max. Once that threshold of time has passed, a $20 per extra hour will be charged. The tribute corresponding to each conversation must be made in its entirety 12 hours before the scheduled conversation. If the tribute has not been made and the explorer fails at requesting postponing it; the date will be canceled, there will not be a refund of the 50% initial tribute and a 3 month ban will be applied before allowing you application for any other ALT’s services.
Virtual Coffee Date Guidelines
When attending a virtual coffee date with a professional Top, it’s important to treat the experience with the same respect and consideration you would in person.
Here’s how to make the most of your first online meeting:
✔ Set the Right Atmosphere: even though it's virtual, treat it like a real coffee date. Find a quiet, private place with a good internet connection, where you won’t be disturbed. Make sure your camera and microphone are working properly, and have a beverage ready to enjoy.
✔ Dress for the Occasion: while you don’t need to wear formal attire, don’t show up looking like you just rolled out of bed. Dress in a neat, casual way that’s appropriate for a video call. Aim for presentable and comfortable.
✔ Be Respectful and Polite: address the Top respectfully using their preferred title, if specified. Avoid making any overly familiar or inappropriate comments. Remember, you’re still getting to know each other, so maintain a polite and courteous tone throughout the meeting.
✔ Keep the Conversation PG-13 [For Now]: even though it’s a coffee date with a Pro-Top, it’s not the time to dive into graphic details about your fantasies or kink activities nor it’s the proper time to flash yourself. Discuss general topics, such as your experiences, interests, and boundaries, to get a sense of compatibility without getting too explicit.
✔ Ask Thoughtful Questions: If you’re new to the lifestyle, it’s okay to admit that you’re still learning. Feel free to ask questions about the Top’s approach, their experience, and how they work with beginners. Use this opportunity to figure out if they match with what you’re looking for.
✔ Discuss Expectations for the Virtual Setting: since this is an online meeting, clarify how sessions might work in a virtual space. Find out what the Top expects and how activities will be conducted safely and consensually.
✔ Respect Privacy: avoid taking screenshots, recording the conversation, or sharing details about the date without the Top’s consent. Treat the virtual date with the same level of privacy and confidentiality as an in-person meeting.
✔ Relax and Enjoy the Conversation: it’s a chance to connect and learn, not an audition or a formal interview. Be yourself, keep the conversation light, and enjoy the opportunity to explore whether there’s a potential dynamic to pursue.
IRL Option
Includes: 2 exploratory online conversations, which will include a video call [non negotiable]. Depending on how those conversations go, you move on to in-person meetings.
Time: the time of each conversation will depend on the explorer's manners, communication skills, personal context and needs.
Requirement: a 50% tribute fee must be paid within a period of 3 days after Miss Abby’s invitation acceptance. Once the tribute has been made, you must send the receipt. You then will receive an email confirming the coffee date with all the information necessary [date/hour/link to the meeting space/etc]. If such tribute it’s not made, the coffee date will automatically be canceled without any notification. In case you still want a coffee date, you must do the entire process once more.
Tribute: $50 per meeting [if the explorer takes care of the check, otherwise it will be $80 per encounter]. This rate is within one hour and half time mark, max. Once that threshold of time has passed, a $30 per extra hour will be charged. The tribute corresponding to each conversation must be made in its entirety 24 hours before the scheduled encounter. If the tribute has not been made and the explorer fails at requesting postponing it; the date will be canceled, there will not be a refund of the 50% initial tribute and a 4 month ban will be applied before allowing you application for any other ALT’s services.
In Real Life [IRL] Coffee Date Guidelines
When attending to a IRL coffee date, especially if you’re new to the lifestyle, it’s important to approach the experience with respect, curiosity, and an open mind.
Here are some key guidelines to help you navigate your first in real life meeting:
✔ Be Respectful: Miss Abby is a professional, and you should treat her as such. Address her by the title she prefers [like "Miss" or "Ma'am"] if she indicates that. Avoid any overly familiar or inappropriate comments. Respect her personal space and maintain a polite demeanor throughout the meeting.
✔ Dress Appropriately: you don’t need to show up in full fetish gear, but looking presentable is important. Dress in a neat, casual way that’s appropriate for a public setting like a café. Think more “smart casual” than “night out on the town.”
✔ Keep It Vanilla [Mostly]: remember, this is a public meeting in a casual setting. Avoid discussing any explicit details of your fantasies or scenes too loudly or openly. Focus on general topics like your interests, experience [or lack thereof], and the kind of dynamic you’re hoping to explore.
✔ Ask Questions, But Don’t Make Assumptions: if you’re new, it’s okay to admit that you’re still learning. Ask Miss Abby questions about her approach and experience, but don’t assume that your fantasies automatically align with her interests. The coffee date is for discussing compatibility and setting realistic expectations.
✔ Discuss Limits and Boundaries: this is the perfect time to bring up your limits, boundaries, and any “hard nos.” Miss Abby will also share her expectations and may set some ground rules. It’s crucial to be honest and clear about what you’re looking for and what you’re not comfortable with.
✔ Understand There’s No Pressure to Commit: the coffee date is a chance to get to know each other, not a guarantee of a session. Both you and Miss Abby are free to decide if there’s a connection worth exploring further.
✔ Keep It Light and Fun: this is an opportunity to connect, not an audition. Be genuine, stay relaxed, and enjoy the conversation. You’ll learn a lot just by talking and listening.
How to book a Coffee Date with Miss Abby?
To start you must send a Coffee Date Invitation. Once Miss Abby receives your invitation she will assess if she’s a good fit to your needs. If her evaluation is positive you will receive an email from Miss Abby accepting your invitation, in which case you must offer tribute depending on the coffee date you would like.
Golden Rules
All communication with Miss Abby, whether through writing, audio or video, is subject to a reasonable expectation of privacy. Any violation of such expectation may lead to legal consequences. The expectation of privacy applies to both parties involved, meaning, nor can Miss Abby discuss with others matters that you entrusted to her privately, nor can you disclose the contents of your conversations with Miss Abby to others.
At the moment you send a Coffee Date Invitation to Miss Abby you are implicitly stating that you have sufficient knowledge about how her dates work, therefore your expectations are based on the information provided and not on wishful thinking.
By confirming Miss Abby’s “Your Invitation to a Coffee Date Has Been Accepted” you are stating you are freely and knowingly engaging with a professional Mistress, and as such you are responsible for your actions and decisions.
Miss Abby reserves the right to request affirmative consent in writing if she deems it necessary; a refusal on your part will be interpreted as a lack of good will and therefore your date may be cancelled without possibility to request any refund.
Is established that everything that is going to be talked and/or negotiated is absolutely consensual and between two willing adults. You need to be at least 25 years old to request any ALT’s services.
Even if coffee dates are meant to be a relaxed friendly encounter, Miss Abby reserves the right to leave the date if you do not respect the basic rules of good manners and respect. If you want to cut the date short for any reason, you are allowed to do so. None of these actions are reason enough to refund any tribute previously made.
Miss Abby strongly believes in the importance of respect as foundation for a good relationship, thus good manners are important. Mind your language, be friendly and respectful, dress appropriately and be on time. Unpunctuality is enough reason for Miss Abby to leave a date without possibility to refund.
Miss Abby is not responsible for anything that goes beyond her own actions and words. The establishment, the staff, drinks, meals, or any other external elements involved in the coffee date are beyond Miss Abby’s control.
Ethical non monogamous folks are very welcome to schedule a coffee date with Miss Abby. Those in relationships with a partner who haven’t given consent to this process will not be considered for a coffee date though.
Miss Abby is a professional Top, NOT an escort. Under no circumstances Miss Abby’s services include sexual intercourse or any type of sexual touch that may be deemed as illegal. You will refrain from touching Miss Abby’s body or from making sexual advances.
The violation of any of these rules will be sufficient reason for Miss Abby to cut off all communication and/or initiate legal action against you if the case warrants it. Any person who violated the rules will not be able to claim ignorance of said rules as a defense, as well as waive the right to request a refund of any tribute made to Miss Abby or expenses incurred in the coffee date process.
