“Sexual and relational diversity vastly transcends the binary models of heterosexuality and monogamy, opening up a vast range of possibilities for the expression of desire and affection. From queer kink monogamous relationships to hetero ethical non-monogamous ones; diversity enriches our understanding of how fluid human sexuality and relationships truly are.”
Miss Abby
Who Are We?
We are a multi-disciplinary, multi-ethnic, international educational/health/cultural/social initiative that seeks to promote ethical, mindful, transformative, sane and safe divergent sexuality.
We like to describe ALT as something between an academy and a [evoked] retreat. We nourish your mind, encourage you to grow as an individual without leaving aside the fun part of all of it!.
Who Are We Speaking To?
ALT's ideal audience are those people who are curious and might want to add one or two new things to their sex life, those seasoned folks who still seek to be nourished by new points of view and perhaps even learn a few things. Professionals who are seeking to learn about the kink community and culture to offer their clients/patients a kink-aware approach to their services. We also want to reach out to educators, advocates and all allies, especially family & friends who want to learn how to create healthier, respectful, fulfilling relationships fostering truthful connection.
Who’s Behind ALT?
Miss Abby [foundress] has 10+ years of experience within the kink community. She's a bisexual, ethical non-monogamous cisgender woman with a passion for learning and teaching. She is the driving force behind ALT Project, especially our Kink School. She is the main writer behind all the books, workshops, guides, videos and all educational tools. She’s also the orchestrator of munches, parties and other events.
Her approach to kink and sexuality in general it’s deeply influenced by the field of psychology, anthropology, sociology, biology and ethics. Even if her approach may look non traditional when it comes to a lifestyle Mistress, in her own words: “It’s only through knowledge and recognition of what makes us human that we may achieve the maximum fuck we all seek”.
Featured Workshop: SLUT
Our workshop for health professionals or as we call it, Science Learning for Unblinkered Transformative Support [SLUTS].
This worshop offers real life knowledge to health professionals who want to provide inclusive, non-judgmental and mindful care to patients who live divergent sexualities.
SLUT is the perfect opportunity to explore the depths of human sexuality through thought-provoking interactions while challenging and expanding professionals own perceptions and biases.
About Us
ALT it’s the first lifestyle/education/health/community focused BDSMK initiative in Ecuador.
We are also the first interdisciplinary team to create educational resources for kinksters and sensual explorers alike. In addition, we stand out for offering our diversity of tools in both spanish and english.
Our multi-disciplinary, multi-ethnic, international, multi-linguistic team has spent the last two years designing a comprehensive plan that allows to offer a safe, fun, educational and accessible space for all those who dare to explore beyond .
ALT it’s a female lead project, which for the Ecuadorian standard is a HUGE milestone. The Latin cultural context in which our community exists might help you to understand the nuances of why much of ALT’s educational tools and articles addresses issues related to women and the LGBTQ+ community.
Even though ALT isn’t thought to be a political movement, our team doesn’t shy away from addressing some worrying, dangerous or problematic political issues related to sexual diversity. We believe in being entities of change, and our weapon of choice is education.
Featured Tool: Abby's Checklist
A guide for those who embrace their most curious and adventurous side. For all the adventurers who want to explore new horizons. For the sexual anarchists who have decided to re-write their personal scripts and in the process find freedom, connection, intimacy and pleasure.
Even though the title of this guide have the wrod checklist on it, this work is much more than that. It's a holistic guide to help kinksters and sensualists explore their likes and dislikes. This book is the culmination of several rewrites and versions over many years. Will this be the final version? We don't think so, Miss Abby always finds new routes to continue improving her work.
No matter whether you are a newbie or a seasoned kinkster, single or someone’s paramour, woman or man, venusian or anunnaki; this tool is written for anyone who loves learning, who wants to know how to keep themselves and their partners safe and having fun in the process.
Our History
ALT it’s an idea born from a conversation between Mia_Faery and Miss Abby while talking about the need of a safe, inclusive educational, social space in which to learn, teach, play, read, dance, sing, create.
The idea was first conceived as a physical place where introverted kink folks could go for hot coffee, good food and amazing board games, all while meeting new kinksters [we still dream about that magical place!]. What at the beginning was just a day dreaming between two good friends started taking shape in Miss Abby’s mind after having a conversation with Doc Edu.
After a while and with the unconditional support and help from both Mia_Faery and Doc Edu, Miss Abby started to give shape to ALT’s final version. An educational-social community where people from all backgrounds can share opinions and knowledge.
For us in ALT doesn't matter if you are kinky or not, what matters is if you are looking for a safe ethical space where to explore your sexuality. You can count on us to give you a friendly hand. If we only talk with those who already think like us, we won’t change anything. Changing the world one mind at a time
Featured Session: Sensual Exploration
Sensual Exploration Sessions [SES] are specifically designed to be a healthy fusion between a BDSM session and a sex therapy session. SES style have 3 different types:
✓ Make Believe.
✓ Midas Touch.
✓ Rookie Bootcamp.
Style can vary widely depending on each person’s needs, interests and level of experience. Each style requires its own set of skills, knowledge, safety precautions, logistics, execution and aftercare.
You might want to learn more about Surrogate Partner Therapy [SPT].
About This Website’s Images and Language
alternativelifeteam.com is a website for people above the legal age. All necessary precautions have been taken to prevent children, teens or adults who are not interested in topics relevant to divergent sexualities from accidentally entering this website.
Even though this website discusses sex related topics our primary goal is to educate, not titillation. There is already a large offer of websites full of provocative images, we have nothing to add in that visual department.
We are committed to making ALT’s educational tools to be friendly and visually non-threatening. We believe this approach of visual insulation allows people to learn without being assaulted by imagery they may find too intense.
We know that sometimes we might come across as too prudes, or not kinky enough and even lose potential patreons and/or clients who want to “see some skin”, but that isn’t the purpose of this website. Our main objective is to make inclusive, diverse sex education as accessible and appeal to regular people who usually don’t dabble into this kind of conversations, people who are new to all this or those who are just looking for a place where to learn due to their profession or because their loved one is a kinky fellow. We wouldn't want to scare away potential allies, kink-aware professionals, or new explorers just because some people think that sex and especially kink sex supposed to be shocking.
That being said, let's make something clear, this is a sex education website, even though we have been extremely careful with the images we select to put openly on each section, the written language is another story. Due to the sexual nature of our content it is inevitable that some words that people may consider offensive or even sickening will show up sooner or later. We encourage all our audience to read Miss Abby's article about the importance of language to conquer negative sexual scripts.
As sign of respect for our users and in consideration of the different levels of tolerance, we have taken care to place warnings on certain free content. So, when you read the following message, discretion it's advice:
[IMPORTANT: Posts may contain depiction of sexual and/or kink activity including nudity. If you do not want to see such things, we advise to go back to the previous page.]
What We Offer?
Coffee Dates
✓ A relaxed & informal meeting with potential Mentor/Usher/Domme.
✓ Flexible, accessible & friendly.
✓ A short time investment for a safe vetting.
✓ Those who go through the 4 meetings minimum, will receive an ALT Sensualist Profile.
Sessions
✓ A mindful way of exploring your sexuality.
✓ For single people or couples.
✓ LGBTQ+ & polyamory aware.
✓ Customizable session’ style and types options.
Mentorships
✓ A collaborative personalized learning experience.
✓ A trial period before full commitment.
✓ Offer strict confidentiality.
✓ A supportive growth-oriented process for anyone looking to learn or acquire skills.
Workshops
Therapy
Educational Resources
✓ An approach, modality and strategy for everyone.
✓ Design to offer accessibility and flexibility.
✓ One-on-one tailored experience for those wanting to keep private their interests.
✓ Affordable but not cheap.
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✓ Available in spanish and english.
✓ An easy way of learning about sex from a holistic point of view.
✓ Fun and relatable yet highly educational.
✓ Accessible for all budgets.
JOIN US IN OUR PATREON
So we can continue creating educational content
"As for sex, ignorance is abysmal, because for centuries those who could not satisfy themselves, except by denying pleasure to others, have taught generation after generation that "sex is taboo." Thou shalt not think about it or discuss it. In fact, it's a dreadful thing, but it's all right as long as you don't enjoy it. If you have any other ideas on the subject, you are a pervert. The basis of a decent society is a happy home. Marriages break up almost invariably because of sex. What you do, or does not do, is your own business, all that matters is that the enjoyment be mutual, — and the time to discuss these things is before you get hitched up. There is a partner to suit everyone somewhere, but the search will be difficult until we can discuss our likes and dislikes, openly, in good taste, without threat from our own brand of standardized Police State"
John Willie
Leather Hall of Fame Member, Bizarre Magazine Editor, Kink Artist
Who Are Our Patreons and Why They Matter To Us
Kink-friend
All those who support us with their interaction, spreading the word and nourishing us with their ideas and their positive energies. They have access to our free on-line content, where they can find informative and educational tools and interact with our community. We are deeply thankful to them!
Stoker
Those who keep the lights on, help us to pay the internet bill and keep our spirits healthy. They are the ones that allow us to transform an idea into a useful tool, a lifestyle into a community.
When you become a Stoker Patreon you receive ALT’s Welcome Package
✓ Mistress Abby's Checklist
✓ Scene Checklist
✓ Medical Checklist]
✓ Access to some tools.
Thanks, we couldn’t do it without you!
Dollmaker
The people who allow us to transform our passion into vocation. Thanks to them we can have sufficient resources to help the community.
When you become in a Dollmaker Patreon you receive ALT’s Welcome Package
✓ Mistress Abby's Checklist [dollmaker’ version].
✓ Scene Checklist.
✓ The Fine Print of Kink; Abby’s Negotiation Tools [dollmaker’ version].
✓ A beautiful customizable BDSM Contract
✓ Early access to our content.
Thanks, we can keep dreaming and creating thanks to you!
Caregiver
The rock stars that help us to grow, keep learning, creating and sharing. Those who decide to become Caregivers are an integral and fundamental part of our community and we always try to show our deep gratitude for their generous support.
They receive ALT’s Welcome Package
✓ Mistress Abby's Checklist
✓ The Fine Print of Kink; Abby’s Negotiation Tools
✓ Fetish, Kink, Roles & Dynamics Guide 101
✓ The Little Box Under The Bed
✓ Sensual Profile made by Miss Abby
✓ 4 virtual coffees dates [direct and private conversation with Mistress Abby]
✓ Access to virtual munches
✓ Participation in round tables
✓ Early access to content, access to material not available to the general public or other levels
Thanks, without you our job would be near to impossible!!