Ethics is at the core of everything we believe in. Ethics beyond lip-service plays a key role in how people should frame their relationships and interact with each other and the world around them. We advocate for ethics to be at the center of people's behavioral decisions and actions making.

 

We don’t think about ethical principles from the limited and unrealistics concepts of good or bad. Our view revolves around the inviolable principle of self-determination and not harming any living creature.

 

We want to leave out of the conversation the issues that limits understanding and connection, and focus on generating a space where folks can strive for change and growth.

 

The pathologizing and criminalization of sexual desires has existed for centuries, yet it the last three or two decades non-normative sexualities have been spoken more openly, given a well deserve focues to aspects such as consent and emotional complexities. This discussions come with the understanding that sexuality is nothing more than one of the many layers that make up our humanity.

 

We feel it's our duty to try to share ethical views about non-normative sexualities as long as we continue to live in a society where prejudice and bigotry are alive. Instead of fostering guilt, we choose to own our uniqueness, reclaim our power, work towards understanding and eradicate ignorance.

 

We believe in the power of knowledge. Freedom, understanding and bravery are born during the learning process that helps us to redefine the world we live in and our place in it.

 

We all dream about living a life that make us feel fulfill yet we walk a path that is still full of fear, shame and hatred, the worst enemies of conscious mindful intimacy. We strive to redefine some of the concepts that for so long have haunted all kind of folks who dare to adventure into the exploration of their sexuality.

 

A person, as an isolated individual, doesn’t possess the strength that a community brings. We don’t exist in a vacuum, as humans it is natural for us to seek connections. It is through the process of seeking for those real connections and the experiences within it that we learn, create, laugh, play, live. We want to be heard, we want to be seen, we want to belong, we want to feel togetherness.

 

Society has gone from, “sex is evil, dangerous and sinful” to, “let’s fuck everyone in an unconscious shallow manner”. We stand some where in the middle. We are against the “starvation/denial” dogma but at the same time we advocate for the wonderfulness of mindful non-normative sexuality.

 

We acknowledge the importance of non-normative voices to be able to truly understand how diverse people’s sexuality are. We strive to learn about the challenges they face and even dare to dream about maybe finding ways of making significant positive changes in their lives.

 

We think that for many decades now the kink scene has suffered due to lack of preparation, ignorance, abuse of power, self-indulgence, secrecy, mystification and “self-outcasting”. We believe that by creating a safe space where normative people, kinksters, sex workers, health professionals, legal experts, therapists, among other people can share and be heard, can help to forge healthier and more diverse non-normative sexual experiences.

 

We hear and read "normalize" all the time, when it comes to non-normative sexualities, we believe that we should talk about “visualization” instead of normalization, since, as we all know, human sexuality is natural, normal and beautiful. What is lacking is the understanding that it is also diverse. We want to break with the habit of projecting non-normative sexualities as dangerous, suitable only for the bravest, for the riskiest and for the most extreme ones because as science has already proven on many occasions, any regular folk can have a kink.

 

The beauty of mankind is its diverse essence, we want to grasp that as best as we can, for being able to achieve that goal we need to dig in the legacy of our sex-negative history to review how each culture relates to sex, erotism, intimacy, sensualism, to then build a sex-positive magic box with all the positive aspects each one of us can contribute to.

 

In the words of two of the most leading, progressive, relevant sex educator voices, Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy:

 

“As proud sluts, we believe that sex and sexual love are fundamental forces for good- activities with the potential to strengthen intimate bonds, enhance lives, create spiritual awareness, even change the world. And, furthermore, we believe that all consensual sexual choices have these potentials- that any sexual pathway, consciously chosen and mindfully followed, can be a positive, creative force in the lives of individuals and their communities”

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